— So, Derek was finally back in town, and we met for Date #4 at a new cocktail bar. As with our other dates, we had a fantastic time! I especially remember laughing a lot. After a few cocktails, it was time to end our evening since it was a “school night”. As we walked around the corner, he grabbed me and kissed me! Wow! Now that was a kiss! I remember going home and feeling pretty fucking excited as this was someone who I not only had a great connection and chemistry with but, he was also a digital nomad, which meant he could potentially stay in Siem Reap. He had already hinted at this during the end of our last date. He also had the ability to relocate when I did. Bonus points there!
The next night we met for Date #5 at a pub quiz, once again with his best friend. They often went, so knew the drill, and I knew very little to help the team. We lost, they were gutted, so we went to drown our sorrows at another bar, well, for a night cap anyways. Shortly after, being another “school night”, I headed home while they carried on.
During the next couple days I asked if he was free to meet, however, he said work was crazy at the moment, and unfortunately he couldn’t. Then the day after, I received the Dear John message “It was lovely to meet you, but I’m leaving Siem Reap in a few days, blah, blah, blah”. To say I was surprised was an understatement, and to this day I still don’t know what the fuck happened when everything felt so right. What I do know, though, is that he definitely was not Mr. Right!
Okay, there’s more bachelors, so next! You might be asking then “What about Bachelor #2- Josh- who lives in Siem Reap?” We’ve seen each other around town, but it’s clear to both of us that we are just meant to be friends.
Right then, “What about Bachelor #3 (Paul) and Bachelor #4 (Steve)?” you ask. Well, as I mentioned in my previous post, one of those two I’m still in touch with! Is there something more there? Is there potential for anything in the future? Who is it? —
Well, Steve ended up flying to Bangkok for a medical emergency (a concern he already mentioned before we ever met) a couple days after our date, and I haven’t heard from him since. We didn’t really have any spark, so it’s okay, but wherever he is, I hope he is well.
However, Paul and I do still keep in contact. We had a fantastic connection but, the reality is, it wasn’t enough to begin some long-distance dating fantasy. Regardless, he wasn’t interested in anything long distance. I truly believe everything happens for a reason. Maybe we were meant to meet, but the timing wasn’t right, but maybe, one day, the timing might be? Or maybe it still won’t be but, I will have a lovely memory of time spent with a man who was intelligent, funny, and respectful. Those are some big boxes he’s ticked! So, let’s say, for the moment anyways, our story isn’t quite over —
Back to square one! At this point, I’m sure you’re saying “Why not just find some more Bachelors?” So much easier said than done! Unfortunately, tourist high season is over in Siem Reap until December, so pickings are once again slim! Sure, there are still some dates happening, but these are with guys who are in town for two-four days, and definitely aren’t looking for anything serious. I do feel, though, you never know who you might make a connection with, so I’m continuing to put out positive energy to receive that kind in return. This is how I met Mr. Austria! Mr. Austria?? As in competition-winning-so-fit-and-gorgeous Mr. Austria? Okay, he wasn’t “officially” but, he might as well have been, because holy shit he was beautiful! I’m confident, with him, I was the one winning!
Although we matched on Tinder, at first he didn’t want to meet for a date. He said he couldn’t be my Mr. Right since he was only in town for two more days, and he didn’t want to waste my time. Later, however, he changed his mind when I said I was still happy to meet him as you never know the connection you might make. We ended up having a super fun date filled with drinks, dancing for hours- a man who can dance is so sexy- and a very hot kiss as we left the bar. Hot, as in he pinned me up against the wall, Oh my fucking god! — Just remembering that moment alone makes meeting him so worth it! As for after, well, some things are better left unsaid. — Or might just be revealed more in an upcoming post- such as the one where I give a star rating to some of my Tinder-date lovers! Hint: Mr. Austria will be topping the list!
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